1. Happy Women Love Themselves First
While you can definitely love someone else without loving yourself, you deserve just as
much love as you give. As famously said in The Fault in Our Stars, “we accept the love we think we deserve.”
There are a few ways you can make yourself feel deserving of self-love. Create a physical list of reasons you should love yourself, and add to it every day. Remind yourself of the items on this list, and they just might feel true!
If you struggle with self-compassion, invest in good books on loving yourself, or listen to podcasts, watch TED Talks or YouTube videos. It’s worth the time!
2. Happy Women Do Not Let Their Mistakes Consume Them
There’s a difference between shame and guilt. Guilt is the feeling that your actions were wrong, but shame is believing that you are wrong as a person because of your mistakes.
Our mistakes do not define us, so long as we admit that they were mistakes and learn from them. We will never be perfect, so it’s not practical to strive for it. For those still striving to be perfect, let Brene Brown become your new best friend. She’s the goddess of self-help and self-compassion.
3. Happy Women Don’t Live by Others’ Expectations
Far too many people live their lives based on how other people want them to exist. That’s simply not fair. Don’t have kids just because your parents want grandkids. Don’t stay hidden because of fear of rejection – your people, those who will love you for who you are, as you are. Happy women live their lives by their rules, and will probably live with fewer regrets. If letting others down is a fear for you, explore codependency and ways to focus on your own happiness.
4. Happy Women Find Work-Life Co-Existence
Whether your work is in the home or out in the workforce, you need a relationship between work and play.
Happy women can enjoy both. With 48% of millennial women feeling like they lack a work-life balance, it’s easy to see how women can become overworked. Make sure you’re leaving enough room for relaxation, relationships, and friends.
While we might be chasing the idea of a work life balance, I don’t believe it actually exists. Instead find a co-existence, or a relationship, or a harmony between the two. A balance indicates that everything is as it should be, perfectly balanced at all times. But that’s not how life actually works.
Happy women understand that sometimes work is more demanding and therefore the life part of the equation is a little neglected, but she also knows that, as in any relationship, there will be times when her work isn’t so demanding and she can focus a bit more on the life side of things.
5. Happy Women Seek Help
We’re not superwomen – we can’t do it all alone! Happy women utilize their supports for help. They’ll confide in trusted friends when they’re stressed, or they’ll ask their partner to help out with the kids while they relax. They might even seek a therapist.
One of the worst things a woman (or anyone) can do is feel like they have to do everything alone.
6. Happy Women Give Each Other Compliments
Let’s stop tearing each other down. Instead, focus on building other women up. If making other people makes you happy, get into the habit of complimenting other women more often. It doesn’t have to be romantic or creepy – just telling a stranger you love her shirt won’t make you look weird!
You’ll start to feel like you’re making a difference in other women’s lives once you see enough positive reactions.
7. Happy Women Find Ways to Stay Grateful
Life doesn’t always go our way, but there are always things to be grateful for. Happy women make room for gratitude in their daily lives.
Each day, think of one thing to be grateful for. It doesn’t matter what that one thing is. All that matters is the fact that you’re expressing gratitude. Soon, it will become a habit, and your bad days won’t feel as bad as before.